And the fight goes on.....

Nothing major, not a marriage breaker, but still a disagreement and I am looking for YOUR opinion. Am I wrong? Would you like to know what the disagreement is about before you make a decision? Well, here is a little back story......

The disagreement itself wouldn't be a big deal if I weren't already annoyed with that man I share my bed with. Yesterday, I developed a slight headache and you may already know if I ignore them, they only get worse, I can lay down and generally it will ease up or go away. I mention to that man that I am going to lay down. As soon as my head hits the pillow, my mom calls and I talk to her about 20 minutes. I decided to go to the bathroom before laying back down. On my way to the bathroom, I stepped in a puddle of water. Misty, the toothless wonder dog left it there for me, she has a problem with keeping the water in her mouth. When I stepped in said puddle I slipped and fell. I hit the floor hard and my head harder. *The wooden garbage can will never be the same, no I didn't break it, but I don't see how I didn't.* This did NOT help my headache or my mood. Now in addition to my headache, my back is sore, my arm hurts from twisting it and my leg hurts from landing on it. Nothing was broken, but the muscles, they were hurting. So I decide laying down would be a wonderful idea. I no sooner lay down than that man calls and giggles as he asks how my nap was. I told him I hadn't had it yet and go into great detail of how much I dislike the dog at this point. I received very little sympathy from that man, but I wasn't looking for sympathy. He points out that it is almost time to drive down to get Little Miss off the bus. I point out I have 1 hour and 15 minutes, for resting and I really need it. The headache which was mild is now throbbing and it hurts to open my eyes.

So you would think I would get an hour before he called back. Right? Wrong! In 25 minutes he calls, again giggling, as he asks how my nap went. I promptly let him know I was not amused. He let me know he just wanted to make sure I didn't forget to get Little Miss.

So there goes my nap. SO I am really sore and I have a massive headache and Little Miss comes home and she is the whiniest human in the world! Speaking to her sends her into tears and all out hissy fits! She wants everything, a drink, something to eat, Daisy out of the pin to play with her, you name it she wanted it. She decides to take all the dogs out and puts Daisy on the leash and Daisy promptly yanks the leash out of her hand and runs off into the field. Which sends Little Miss in and crying that she lost Daisy. I went out and walked around and called the dumbass dog and finally got her home. So needless to say, when that man came home I wasn't a happy camper.

Does he come in and try to be nice to me? Well, no! He rolls his eyes that I am still attempting to get rid of my headache. What does he do? Lays back in the recliner and goes to SLEEP!!!! What did I do? Well, I am not in jail so you know I did not kill him! I cooked supper. Can you say painful? Yes, we had meatloaf, three cheese potatoes, green peas, pintos and cornbread. Nice supper isn't it! A lot of mixing in that meal, really didn't agree with my arm, but I did it. I also cleaned up the kitchen. I never asked him to help, he didn't offer. Still not the disagreement, but we are now at the disagreement and where I need your opinion.

There is a show on ABC Family, "The Secret Life of the American Teenager", it is a show for teens, this I know. I also know that Little Miss is not a teen yet, she is only 9, she still has a few years til she officially becomes a teenager. But I like the show and I watch it. Little Miss likes the show and she watches it WITH ME. The key words here are WITH ME!

For those of you not familiar with the show the main character is a 15 year old girl who becomes pregnant during her first experience having sex. *This is why I originally watched the show. I was pregnant at 15 and I wanted to see just how they handled it, whether it was realistic or if they dropped the ball. They have hit it fairly close.* The show has many characters that teenagers see everyday. The "oops" pregnant girl, her good guy boyfriend (who is not the father of the baby), the bad boy (the father of the baby), the slut (who was dating the bad boy and yes having sex with him), the good girl (who has chosen abstinence but is facing the pressures of having sex), the two best friends of the pregnant girl (who are facing issues of just being odd teenagers), the parents of the pregnant girl (who are facing a divorce, but it has nothing to do with the pregnant daughter), the parents of the good girl (who are also raising a Down Syndrome son and pushing the good girl to not have sex) and the best friends of the good boyfriend (who have been dating forever).

Yes, there is a lot of talk about sex. It is showing many sides of sex. Getting pregnant, even on the first time. That shows what can happen. The slutty girl who seems to have no problem having sex with a boy who doesn't have true feelings with her. Showing that some girls have sex for the attention. The 2 best friends of the good guy having sex for the first time and it being bad. That shows that sex may not be exactly what you think it will be. And there is talk of having sex alone (masturbation). Yes, some very embarrassing subjects. Yes, a bit of an adult theme. But, it doesn't show anyone having sex, rather it lets you know it happened without being explicit.

So as the season finale was on last night and that man happened to be in here and watched it with us. He had a fit! Little Miss had NO business watching a show like that. It was too young for me and too old for her. I tried to point out, Little Miss was around the corner from dealing with these same issues. * I must point out I know a young lady who got pregnant and had a baby at the tender age of 12, yes, you read that right, TWELVE!!!!*

That man refused to see that by watching this show with me,it had opened up a few talks between me and Little Miss. That she is seeing how things (sex) are handled. And learning a few things. What is she learning at her tender age of 9........

1. That if you have sex, you can get pregnant, even the first time.

2. That some guys are just slugs! She has pointed out to me how awful the bad guy (Ricky) treats girls and how they (Adrienne, Grace and the 2 best friends) just don't see it and how they should. Pretty observant of a 9 year old.

3. How the pregnant girl's (Amy) pregnancy is affecting more than just her. How it is affecting her new boyfriend, her parents, her friends, the parents of the other girls.

4. How even though Ricky is the father of the baby, his life or life style hasn't really changed. He still has sex. He is looking for a new girlfriend, kinda pressuring other girls to have sex, trying to play up the "poor guy" side of the whole she is keeping the baby thing.

5. The options for a girl who is pregnant. Abortion, adoption and keeping the baby.

6. That sometimes parents have problems and it has nothing to do with their kids!

The list goes on, but this is some of the topics the shows has opened up for us. It has given her questions and she asked them. And I did my best to answer them without going into grand detail.

Like she asked why Adrienne told Ricky she wasn't going to have sex with him anymore, but he called while she was upset and she told him to come over and they had sex. She wanted to know why she would do that. I explained to her that some girls feel like they can only be loved if they have sex with boys. And how they think it will help make their problems go away. She thought that was crazy!

Another example, She wanted to know why people had a problem with Amy (the pregnant girl) and treated her different but not Ricky (the father of the baby). I told her that was just how it was. If your pregnant, it can be seen and it is a constant reminder, but fathering a child had no outward signs. The whole boys will be boys thing. She wanted to know why it was different for boys to have sex. How it was fine if a boy had sex but a girl was a slut if she had sex, didn't there have to be a girl having sex if a boy had sex. Again she floored me with her smarts. I told her it was a double standard, that boys couldn't get pregnant and that seemed to make it OK in the eyes of some people. Girls on the other hand, should know better, should know that they can get pregnant. It really is a double standard.

And she wanted to know how you could decide what to do if you did get pregnant. I told her it was different for different girls. Some girls decide to have an abortion because they are not able to continue a pregnancy for what ever reason (and I did hit on some reasons they couldn't continue it). Some girls can not handle the idea of an abortion, but are not able to keep the baby for some reason (yes, I hit on reasons for not being able to keep it) and adoption is a great option. And that some girls decide to not only continue the pregnancy but to keep the baby. That opened up a talk about how I made my decision and why it was the right decision for me but how it wouldn't be right for others.

She wondered what kind of problems parents can have that doesn't involve the kids. As far as she is concerned parents don't have a life except for what happens to the kids. The whole world revolves around the children doesn't it? She knows that parents do have lives outside of kids and that the world doesn't stop when children sleep. She learned a few years ago that mom and dad have to have time alone. I hoped she didn't know why, but she knew we wanted time alone. Now she knows that sometimes there are other problems between parents.

See how it opened up discussions? A little bit of an adult topic, but still something she will have to deal with at some point in her life. The sex part anyway, I hope the pregnancy part only comes after marriage, hell, I hope the sex part comes after marriage, but that will have to be her decision. And I hope our little talks help her to make the decision that is best for her and if she chooses to have sex, to be responsible about it.

They say talk to your child earlier than you think you need to. The night before the first date is too late, that you should talk to your child about sex way before that. Is 9 too young, I don't know. Hubby says she has years before sex will be an issue and she is way to young to even know about sex. Well, I say that ship has already sailed, she watches TV and has known the word sex for a long time.

So am I wrong to let her watch this show? Is that man right? Is she too young? Have I caused her to have grown up conversations before she is old enough? I haven't told her the mechanics of sex, more the emotional side and the consequence side of it. That is what the show does. I want her to know the consequences to having sex. I want her to know it just isn't physical, that it really is very much emotional. I want her to know I am there for her. That she can ask me anything and I will try to answer them in a way she can understand. But is this topic to old for her? That man thinks we are years from having to have any kind of conversations with her on that level.

When I read about 9 year olds raping 8 year olds, it makes me think. Maybe 9 isn't too young to have talks with kids. I stress that sex is for adults. That 9 is way to young for it. That you don't have to be married to have sex, but it is best if you are in love with the other person and they love you. And that the best way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. And when you do decide to have sex, you have to be responsible and know what can happen. Not just the getting pregnant part, but also the possibility of getting sick. I try to keep everything on her level but let her know the facts without scaring the hell out of her.

That man wants her to be a kid, so do I. But I want her to be prepared, whenever the time comes. So what do you think? Am I wrong? Am I making her grow up too fast? I am not telling her sex is OK, I am not telling her to have sex. Let me have it. I can handle it!

Until next time..........

HAVE A GREAT DAY AND THANKS FOR VISITING!!!!!!!